tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post5364254560777684..comments2014-08-20T23:30:26.057-06:00Comments on Jayrod P. Garrett: Faces of Manipulation: Abuse the Generational DestroyerJayrod P. Garretthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12856869742909290300noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-90087425310504045092012-04-29T22:20:26.250-06:002012-04-29T22:20:26.250-06:00I haven't had the opportunity to read more of ...I haven't had the opportunity to read more of her blog, but I'll be certain to drop in and get some tips from her. I know I'll probably write about this in another venue as time goes on, and try and express some of the general fears as well as my own.<br /><br />I'm so glad that both you and Shan were able to break the cycles for yourselves and your families. You are both worth it too. And I'm thankful for the opportunity to know you both. It is your successful struggles that persuade me to tarry on with my own. Because there is hope. Thank you.Jayrod P. Garretthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12856869742909290300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-22912507605175819692012-04-29T22:16:15.457-06:002012-04-29T22:16:15.457-06:00Thanks Lady Driscoll. This was one of the harder ...Thanks Lady Driscoll. This was one of the harder blogs to write, that is for sure.Jayrod P. Garretthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12856869742909290300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-78303340851794322432012-04-29T18:23:23.267-06:002012-04-29T18:23:23.267-06:00I'm sorry you were hurt, Jayrod, and admire yo...I'm sorry you were hurt, Jayrod, and admire you for facing the situation head on, and for writing about it.S.J. Driscollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13193332859850788502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-74437306236046709782012-04-28T19:59:37.318-06:002012-04-28T19:59:37.318-06:00Lovely, intro-(and extra-)spective post, Jayrod. ...Lovely, intro-(and extra-)spective post, Jayrod. It's so hard sometimes to realize how we are affecting others in our lives when our hearts are clouded by the pain of our pasts combined with the triggers of the present.<br /><br />You're right that there is a serial pattern to abuse. And worse, those who survive it, often take years to understand how wounded they truly are. Sadly some never realize that the problem (the damage) is their own. They believe they are "doing great" because they aren't trapped by their parent's circumstances, but they tend to look only at the visible things (both parents may be home versus a single-parent home, or there is a stable income, or... well, you know).<br /><br />I'm not sure how much you've read of Shan's posts on her Unfettered Life Blog, but there are some pages where she talks about breaking the cycle as well. (And the grief she is receiving from her own family for being brave enough to do it.) I can speak from experience there... Beyond my own cycle of abuse that I realized I was starting to take out on my son and needed to break free from, I saw plenty of the abuse Shan suffered because we were friends pretty much all through school.<br /><br />I guess what I'm trying to say here is that YES, you CAN break the cycle. And the big reason you can is because you recognize it for what it is and want with all your heart to be an unbroken human being, Jayrod. Which is cool, because you are definitely worth it.Eden Mabeehttp://manyworldsmanyminds.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-83722317555139804422012-04-28T05:23:26.613-06:002012-04-28T05:23:26.613-06:00Indeed. I remember when I was little laughing at ...Indeed. I remember when I was little laughing at that show, because I didn't know any better and now I see it as propaganda for a way of life I shun.Jayrod P. Garretthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12856869742909290300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-76525039054590131152012-04-28T05:22:27.144-06:002012-04-28T05:22:27.144-06:00And I can see the fruit of his decision Donna. Th...And I can see the fruit of his decision Donna. Thank you for your kind words.Jayrod P. Garretthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12856869742909290300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-50461245500361826742012-04-27T21:15:53.179-06:002012-04-27T21:15:53.179-06:00A lighter side of this is depicted by an old T.V. ...A lighter side of this is depicted by an old T.V. show, "The Honeymooners".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8255329229751420925.post-25898249616300241362012-04-27T10:41:12.335-06:002012-04-27T10:41:12.335-06:00Excellent post Jayrod. Under stress, we rarely do ...Excellent post Jayrod. Under stress, we rarely do what we wish we'd do, we do what we know. If what we know is inappropriate, then we tend to act that out. Good for you in making a conscious decision to stop it. My father made the same choice.Donna K. Weaverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763832177263927311noreply@blogger.com